The month of love (and Hallmark)
I have never been a fan of Valentine’s Day and all the marketing gimmicks that go with it. I would play along, because... chocolate, but I always found it nauseating. The lucky ones find love surrounding them yearlong, even if it is not romantic love; they don’t need a Hallmark date.
This morning a friend posted something on Facebook about romantic love that resonated with me. The article states that “We Only Fall in Love with Three People in Our Lifetime – Each One for a Specific Reason”. You can read the full article on Curious Mind Magazine, but the main points are summarized below:
I certainly experienced the first and second loves, and while I believe I have found the third love it is still a work in progress. People change, it is only natural; circumstances and priorities shift, and finding a balance within each other’s worlds is not always smooth sailing. But, it’s how you grow with one another, and hopefully not apart, that matters.
But, romance aside, I can honestly say that at only 3 years old my daughter has taught me more about love and life than everyone in my past combined. She has taught me what it is to love, and be loved, unconditionally. She has made me realize that I need to work on loving myself as much as I love her. She has shown me that it is important to stop and smell the roses once in a while and to pay more attention to the little things in life, like swinging in the park on a sunny day or looking up at the falling snow as though it was the first time you experienced it every time. To be fearless, to get back up when you fall, and to stop worrying so much about everything and to just do what makes you happy (still working on those). To allow yourself to feel your emotions, but to forgive freely and not hold a grudge. And, most importantly, to laugh… even if it is at your own expense.
And, to show my love for all of you... February wallpapers!
This morning a friend posted something on Facebook about romantic love that resonated with me. The article states that “We Only Fall in Love with Three People in Our Lifetime – Each One for a Specific Reason”. You can read the full article on Curious Mind Magazine, but the main points are summarized below:
- The first love happens early in life. This is the love you would die for. The love that is romantic, even dramatic at times. You think this is the love that would last forever, no matter how many people are against it or what comes on your way. You would do anything to save it.
In this relationship, even your own principles become unimportant because you are certain that this is it, until you grow up. You have found love and you’re not giving up on it.
- The second love makes you learn more about yourself than the other person in the relationship. You realize that you want to have someone by your side whom you can trust and who you can love. But you learn this the hard way – often through heartache and dishonesty.
In this love, both of you make mistakes and forgive. This is repeated again and again, sometimes for years until you get tired and give up, no matter how much effort you have put into it.
This love is passionate, but also dramatic and that’s why you have kept waiting for the happy end. But somehow, the end is always worse than you expected.
This experience made you stronger, but it also brought you back to reality and made you realize that love doesn’t always have a happy ending.
- The third love is the one that comes in the time when you want it and expect it the least. It’s the love that happens out of the blue and that makes you do everything you have said you would never do. You didn’t plan for this love and that’s what makes it even more strong and passionate.
It’s the love that just seems right. In everything – the connection you have, the support they provide for you, the way they make you smile… You don’t have to act perfect in front of this person – the way you are is enough. They accept you with all your flaws.
You never imagined you would be with this type of person, but you’re happy and you wouldn’t change them. You learned that love isn’t always how we imagine it and that’s okay. You don’t have to wait for the happy end now because at the end of every day you fall asleep happy since you’re with them.
I certainly experienced the first and second loves, and while I believe I have found the third love it is still a work in progress. People change, it is only natural; circumstances and priorities shift, and finding a balance within each other’s worlds is not always smooth sailing. But, it’s how you grow with one another, and hopefully not apart, that matters.
But, romance aside, I can honestly say that at only 3 years old my daughter has taught me more about love and life than everyone in my past combined. She has taught me what it is to love, and be loved, unconditionally. She has made me realize that I need to work on loving myself as much as I love her. She has shown me that it is important to stop and smell the roses once in a while and to pay more attention to the little things in life, like swinging in the park on a sunny day or looking up at the falling snow as though it was the first time you experienced it every time. To be fearless, to get back up when you fall, and to stop worrying so much about everything and to just do what makes you happy (still working on those). To allow yourself to feel your emotions, but to forgive freely and not hold a grudge. And, most importantly, to laugh… even if it is at your own expense.
And, to show my love for all of you... February wallpapers!
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